For some, Valentine’s Day causes many conflicting emotions and can invoke some painful memories
Now January is over, Valentine’s Day is looming. We seem to have it thrust upon us as the day gets ever closer! Cards in the shops, over priced flowers in the florist, romantic meal deals, and adverts to make the most of the day of love.
However, for some, Valentine’s Day causes many conflicting emotions and can invoke some painful memories perhaps due to bereavement, divorce, break-up, being apart for the day, or being single.
When others excitedly chat about the plans being made, see the roses delivered to the office, or view the pictures on social media, we are reminded that our hopes and dreams of what we might have planned for this day are just not happening.
This is when the reality of life can hit us. It becomes real and it hurts.
If this is true for you, then here are a few tips to help you through the day:
Acknowledge the day might feel difficult for you.
Do what feels right for you.
Be gentle with yourself. If it feels overwhelming, allow yourself to feel and acknowledge your emotions - it is ok to feel sad. It is good to cry.
Give yourself time to do something you enjoy.
Meet up with a friend and share how you are feeling.
If you’re sad due to a bereavement, remember those we loved will always be a part of us. Open your heart and allow space for the joy of their memories. The memories you made together.
Create a new tradition for Valentine’s Day.
If you would like to talk about your broken heart and how I can help ease the pain, please get in touch.
Jill Attree is a Advanced Grief Recovery Method Specialist, based in Dorset. Jill has helped grievers throughout the UK by listening without judgement, analysis or criticism - so that you can move forward through your loss. To help you create a brighter tomorrow.
Find out more about Jill.